I may have actually emailed Dan Savage re: activity, not orientation.
Joe wants to tap that ass, and he is asking for it!
Someone needs to writes this right now…
Generally, SUB, if it’s something that gay, straight, or bisexual people can all do—like erotic power exchange (bondage, D/s, BDSM, etc.)—then I consider it a sexual activity, not a sexual orientation.
I have a problem with this. As someone who is kinky, I don’t want someone who isn’t telling me that my sexual orientation is actually just a sexual activity. That’s exactly like saying being gay isn’t actually being gay—having sex with other men, or women, is just a sexual activity.
If I said that, you’d be pretty pissed off, right? You’d say, well no, being gay is a lot more than a sexual activity because I can’t get aroused or enjoy good sex if it isn’t with another man, or woman. Well, shockingly enough, being kinky is exactly like that.
I don’t enjoy vanilla sex. Having a vanilla partner does not arouse me. I can have vanilla sex, sure, but queer people can have straight sex as well.
I’ve known I was into kink for a very, very long time. Lots of queer people will tell you that they knew as a child, and that was the same for me. For a long time I didn’t have the words to describe what I am though. And the reason for that is because of people like Dan Savage denying that my kinkiness is a sexual orientation. I knew what being ‘gay’ was long before I understood what being ‘kinky’ meant.
Now don’t get me wrong, I like and respect Dan Savage very much, but this recent article struck a chord with me. A gay man, of all people, should understand what it means when someone tells you that your sexual orientation is not a real thing. That maybe it’s “just a phase”, that given enough time you’ll “grow out of it”.
I’ve been this way for 23 years, and I don’t see myself “growing out of it” any time soon. So please do not tell me that my sexual orientation does not exist, when I have struggled with my attraction to BDSM the same way millions of queer people have struggled with their identities and orientations.
Gay interracial priests selling ice cream
“SECOND CLASS CITIZEN” - if you watch one thing today, watch this. I’m moved to tears, and I’m so honored that I’m in this video, even if it’s just for a split second… because that’s what it’s all about - that we’re all part of a movement that is SO much bigger than each of us individually. I’m inspired. Let’s get this done.
TW: Lots of suicide-related content.
1. How far do you get before you start crying? (I made it to 46 seconds)
2. How many of these media moments were you already familiar with? (most of them)
3. How many of them happened in your life time? (way, way, way too many of them)
4. If the people being talked about in this thing aren’t you (i.e., if you’re straight), can you imagine what it would be like if they were? Well, I’m not straight.. so yeah, I know what it’s like.
Worth thinking about. Worth answering. Watch the video; help tell the story.
crying my eyes out
Thousands of LGBT couples across the world awoke this morning to learn that they are no longer married.
A Department of Justice lawyer under Prime Minister Stephen Harper’s Conservative Party of Canada government has nullified all same-sex marriages performed in Canada in which the couples’ native country does not permit gays and lesbians to marry.
This is absolutely fucked. I’m speechless. This is so upsetting.
YEAH WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK IS THIS.
Let me introduce you to the best advertisement of all time:
Homoerotic, Interracial Priests selling Ice Cream.
(he has a spoon - A SPOON)